So, I wasn't able to make it work yet.
Some things I learned are:
The rewiring for the DTC button is not M3 stock, on DSC, pin 41 is for the center console button switch ( the one with power, EDC, DSC) which I have wired but DSC isn't working, EDC does work. Stock M3 has an RDC button in place of the DTC.
I have the complete wiring loom from an 2011 E93 M3 so I'm able to cross check stuff.
Tried the 1MDSC and the hazard switch DTC button works that way, no MDrive though. I'd like to have the M3DSC software anyway.
I have a spare MSD81 which I'm going to use with the N54 engine I'm buying, I'll try to write IKM0S, and pair it with my CAS and try it that way to see if it does the trick.
I have the brake pad sensors broken so red indicator in the Kombi is always on, I'm wondering if this has an effect maybe?
Some trace from me trying to turn MDrive light on. The messages are hardcoded and going through the checksum function.
Status MDrive on.
0x399: 0x92 0x51 0x35 0x2A 0x51 0x97
0x399: 0xA3 0x51 0x35 0x2A 0x51 0x97
0x399: 0xB4 0x51 0x35 0x2A 0x51 0x97
Status MDrive off.
0x399: 0xC5 0x50 0x35 0x2A 0x41 0x97
Status MDrive on.
0x399: 0xD6 0x51 0x35 0x2A 0x51 0x97
0x399: 0xE7 0x51 0x35 0x2A 0x51 0x97
0x399: 0xF8 0x51 0x35 0x2A 0x51 0x97